Default setup as starting point, White LED correction.
For white point choose the lesser evil, your desired white loosing contrast, native white (max contrast, white may not be “white”) or some daylight white close to native white as a compromise solution between the two.
Measure native white and you’ll know. If it is a laptop IPS display, D65 white should be at your gasp without loosing a significative amount of contrast.
IDNK how it behaves after calibration matrix profile verification. Grey issues can be solver lowering calibration speed. Huge color discrepancies between profile and display may be solved with XYZLUT profiles and lots of calibration patches. Usually default settings work if display is not bad behaved.